Friend Or Foe: The Tragic Death of Kenneka Jenkins

Yesterday while perusing my snapchat; I caught wind of a story developing out of Chicago. It was about the young girl found dead in a walk in freezer. The more details I discovered about the story, the more disturb I became.
It seems the young girl, named Kenneka Jenkins; a gorgeous brown skinned, petite, 19-year- old; life came to a tragic end after celebrating her friends’ birthday in a hotel room kickback. While, many details remain unclear, one thing that is clear is that this story is messy, and just heartbreaking. According to current rendition of the story, Kenneka was so inebriated that she staggered into a walk in freezer and presumably could not get out. Many have taken to the internet to conform theories and “solve” the case. However out of respect for her family, I will not add my version of what I think happened to that young lady. Only, the Lord and the people involved really knows, everything else is just reckless speculation.
However, what I would like to discuss are the many alarming occurrences that took place based off of the facts that we have been privy to from the social media post, and Facebook lives of the people with Kenneka in her final hours alive, that are making rounds.

First, as a mother, I pray, that we as mothers to young beautiful vulnerable females, understand that our girls are at risk. It was not even a year ago that the hash tag #MissingDCGirls trended based on oddly high number of missing girls in DC. Young African woman are disappearing at an alarming rate in this country. A member of the city council declared an “epidemic” of missing girls. Knowing that to be a fact, makes it more than okay to be that overbearing parent that sets very clear perimeters for our girls to live within. I’m not in anyway saying that Kenneka’s mom could have done anything any differently; I’m sure she never thought her daughter going to her best friend’s birthday party would result in her child’s death. However, what I am saying is, we as mothers have to be more vigilant over our daughters more than ever before. We have to take precautions and measures we never had to in recent history. We just do. Know where they’re going, with who, when they’ll be back, have other mothers numbers, friends numbers, drop them off, wait outside, drive around the block while you wait, text every 30 mins, or else I coming in to find you!

Secondly, I won’t write this and pretend like I have never been a carefree, boundary pushing teenager. In fact, I think this story resonates so much because I can remember being in some pretty sketchy situations alongside my friends as well as a youngin. Unlike, poor Kenneka, I survived (all glory to God). However, when I think about what made me escape the same fate as this sweet girl, the fact is that I grew up in a time when people weren’t entirely shitty. Even the bad guys had somewhat of a conscience in my time. Fast forward to these days, people are ruthless. The mixture of being high off all sorts of drugs, pills, etc; coupled with a dog eat dog mentally, this generation is just different. As I watched the Facebook live, the look on some of those kids faces are scary. Nothing phases them, or bothers them. Or at least that’s the way they want to appear. The chase of “turning up” supersede all moral judgement. It’s sad and scary at the same time to bare witness to.

Lastly, the question that a lot of people are asking this morning is; were any of those three or  four other girls Kenneka Jenkins with, really her friends? We don’t know what happened, but the fact that she was with four other girls, and no one knows what happened is disgusting. Let’s go with the version that these girls are offering and assume that they really don’t know what happened to this young lady. That in itself is a crime. We are so quick to call eachother “sis”, and egg  eachother on when it’s turn up twerking time; but we let things like this just happen?! If Kenneka was as drunk as is being reported, her more alert/sober friends should of took reign and gotten her to safety.

I just needed to get these things off my chest, because like I said this story has me bothered. This young girls life did not have to end like this. I pray her family, especially her mother finds some peace. May her soul rest in perfect peace.

Sidenote: I neglected to touch on the young men involved because, we don’t know what happened. I only touched on that of which there is evidence to support. Again, I don’t want to speculate. However, if those young men were involved the moral of this story is not ‘”friend or foe”, but rather “raise men that don’t rape and kill girls”. smh!!!

Product Review: Colorful Beaded Ball Earrings



Hi HUGs……

Just checking in to say hi. Lately, I have been busy. But a good productive busy. There has been order and purpose behind my busyness. Don’t you hate when you’re busy but chaos rules the day.  To avoid that chaotic energy I try to remember slow and steady is the way to go. Pressure can be healthy but too much can cloud your judgement. It’s best to just take time. Think quality not quantity.

Enough of that. Now on to some pretty cute earrings that I think would brighten up anyone’s day. They are beaded ball earrings that dangle. They really add a little sass to a look. Wear them with your hair up or down; either way its super cute.As summer closes out (😩) these earrings are the perfect flare to hold on to these last days of warm. The quality of these earrings is what sets them apart. Clearly, well crafted; these dangle earrings will damgle lightly and not weigh down the ear. If you like the bohemian; hand crafted jewelery vibe; these balled dangles will not disappoint. The colors of these earrings are so vibrant. I hope the pic captures that. It will sit nicely against any skin hue.

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Hello August: 52 Healthy Things To Do Before Summer Is Over

Hello August.

As we usher in this last full month of summer 😢; it’s a great time to start thinking about what exactly it is we want to accomplish before the summer is over. With exactly 52 days before that first leaf falls, here is a list of 52 HEALTHY things to do before summer 17 is but a memory:

1. Drink water everyday ( pack a water filtered water bottle like this one)
2. Try spa water  (water infused with mint, cucumbers, berries etc)
3. Go for a evening run
4. Yoga at sunset on the beach
5. Yoga at dawn on the beach
6. Start the day with a ACV shot
7. No meat for a week( Try JesusAndFood.com for some meatless yummy recipes)
8. Sugar free for a week or more
9. Take a walk everyday
10. Do a natural lip scrub (use Brown sugar and  olive oil)
11. Eat nutrient dense foods like almonds, salmon, etc daily
12. Green tea eye mask
13. Eat melon
14. Co Wash your hair weekly
15. ACV rinse in your hair to remove build up
16. Do a Indian healing clay  mask ( try this one)
17. Dry brush your skin weekly
18. Learn a new word a week
19. Read at least 4 new  books
20. Listen to music of another language
21. Mediate
22. Pray
23. Fast
24. Laugh daily
25. Teach your little one a new skill
26. Declutter your space
27. Create a journal and write in it
28. See your OB-Gyn
29. Eat a salad everyday
30. Deep condition hair weekly or biweekly
31. Save $20 or more from paycheck
32. Do a wheatgrass shot daily for a week
33. Add Chlorella to your green juice
34. Ride a bike
35. Make healthy delicious popsicles
36. Make nicecream
37. Do a bonfire with close friends
38. Eat fresh fruits and veggies from the farmers market
39. Visit and support your local farmers market weekly
40. Start thinking about your plans for 2018
41. Try henna
42. Coconut oil pull everyday
43. Treat lashes and eyebrows with castor oil nightly
44.  Try a few new vegan recipes
45. Do a foot detox
46. Make 10, 000 steps a day
47. Take your Hair Skin and Nails vitamins daily
48. Go for a hike
49. Swap sugary drinks
50. Clean home daily
51. Drink lemon water in morning and at night
52. Help another woman

MY 5 HUG MUST-HAVES RIGHT NOW

GameFace Wipes:

 

Sometimes a shower right after the workout is not ideal. Perhaps, you have to make a quick stop at the store or the bank. I once had to run into Walmart after a workout and ended up a little too close to my boss in the check out line.  Let’s just say awkward. I looked and probably smelled musky. But the workout was worth it.  Kinda. Well with post workout wipes from GameFace, a quick freshening up is easy. Throw the lightly scented sturdy wipes in your gym bag and go. No more awkward post workout run ins.

 

RuckPack Energy Shots:

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Sometimes getting the workout in is impossible because tiredness wins. With #RuckPack Energy Shots (which have been featured on Shark Tank); the ingredients are natural and the outcome is full energy without shocking the nervous system. With yummy flavors like strawberry, citrus and berry it’s also delectable. Just pour into a cold glass of water or drink straight.

Try RuckPack here, and use the code BB105 for a 20% discount.

Mink Lashes:

 

I’m late on this one. Lashes are a must to enhance a beat face. However, if you’re going to do lashes; please opt for mink lashes. I didn’t know there was such a difference between mink lashes and artificial lashes; until I actually tried mink. Lashes should look and FEEL as natural as possible. Mink lashes are softer and FEEL almost weightless on the eyelids.

Try these Mink lashes for a reasonable price.

Filtered Water Bottle:

Water is a must. Lots of it. Daily. But who has time and money to keep running to the store for bottled water. Instead, I purchased a filtered water bottle that does all the work for me. I get endless bottles of fresh clean water and there is no plastic waste. Yayyyy! Try a filtered water bottle like this one.

 

Essential Oils And Diffuser:

For everything from aromatherapy to curing a headache; essential oils are the best. For each ailment we may suffer from, there’s an oil for that. I am having a great time researching and learning about essential oils and how to use them properly. Also, loving my oil diffuser to diffuse my favorite flavors of oils through out my home. It creates a great aroma that always lifts my energy.

Start with a simple but effective set of essential oils like this one. 

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10 Ways Apple Cider Vinegar Is Critical To Your #GloUp

Ladies, everything we do should in one way or another, contribute in large part to our #GloUp. While, the concept of a ” #GloUp” will differ from person to person, there are some fundamental bullet-points that are a must for any #GloUp to be official. One of those crucial bullet-points in particular, is having our health game on point. What we’ll be discussing today is almost synonymous with good health:  Apple Cidar Vinegar in its (organic) raw and unfiltered form is possibly one of the most vital natural health remedies to contribute to an increase in good health. ACV is one of those natural goodies that the healthiest person you know, probably swears by for many different reasons. In fact, ACV has anti-inflammatory properties that aides in everything from skin problems to weight loss.

Here are 10 key ways in which organic raw and unfiltered Apple Cidar Vinegar (with the mother) is critical to your #GloUp:

1. Detox Your Body

In this case, unfiltered ACV can act as a tonic for the liver and lymphatic; which can help detox your body.  Also, ACV helps balance your body’s pH and stimulates cardiovascular stimulation, bowel motility and lymphatic drainage. All of that leads to better health, and thereby instant #GloUp.

2. Natural Conditioner to Make Hair Shine

Hair can make or break ones #GloUp. Use ACV as a natural hair conditioner that after consistent use, makes the hair take on great shine.   Use  1 tablespoon of organic apple cider vinegar and 1 cup of water, in a bottle.  Pour this on your hair after shampooing. Remember consistency is key here. ***Be careful not to burn eyes with the acidic solution.***

3. Natural Teeth Whitener

A beautiful smile is detrimental to the #GloUp. It says, “Im happy from the inside out”. Enhance your smile with organic apple cider vinegar, by taking your index finger, dab in the ACV, and simple rub your teeth. The pH levels in the ACV will work overtime in no time to remove unwanted stains from the teeth.

4. Regulates Your Body’s pH

A body in alkaline is already way ahead of itself in the #GloUp game. This is because balancing the pH levels in the body, reduces the the risk of serious illnesses like cancer. ACV contains acetic acid, which dramatically has a alkaline effect on the body. Also, a body in alkaline state, has more energy; which will give us life in those #GloUp exercise sessions.

5. Can Support Weight Loss and Metabolism

Nothing screams #GloUp; like shedding some un-welcomed  LB’s. A study published in the Journal of Diabetes Care found that consuming apple cider vinegar could promote weight loss. There are several reasons ACV promotes fat loss, but one of those reasons includes that ACV reduces sugar cravings and improves detoxification. #YesPlease

6. Improve Body Odor:

Again with the pH, ACV helps control excessive body odor by regulating the pH of the skin, something most commercial deodorants and perfumes can’t claim. To use ACV as a deodorant simply wipe each armpit with a soaked cotton ball daily.

7.  Literally GLOing Skin:

Due to the pH balance of Apple Cidar Vinegar; which is close to our natural skins own pH balance, it makes for a great skin toner in that it does not harm our skin acid mantle (a protective layer of skin). Ditch those expensive chemically enhanced toners, and opt for the natural, yet potently effective ACV option. If you want to try ACV as a toner, just combine one part ACV with two to three parts water, you’ll want to add more water for very sensitive skin.Your skin will thank you. Add some coconut oil to your skin after you tone with ACV for best results.

8. Eliminates Varicose Veins:

Since ACV improves circulation in the vein walls and is a anti inflammatory, it is great for reducing bulging varicose veins. Make a mixture of apple cider vinegar and witch hazel, and rub on the area effected by varicose veins, in a circular motion; and you should see improvements in two weeks.

9. Fleeky from the inside out:

What good is it to look good and not feel good?!Remember, a proper #GloUp starts from inside the body. ACV can aide in balancing blood sugar and improving diabetes due to a special acid found in it, called acetic acid. This will ensure you well from within. 

10. Say BYE to  Yeast Infections :

Really Candida; which is a parasite bacteria that if overgrown can lead to yeast infections, low energy, canker sores, and other less than cute conditions. Apple cider vinegar is a great tool in ridding candida, because of it’s ability to aide in promoting better digestion and an acid/alkaline balance more aligned with promoting healthy bacteria to once again thrive in the gut. Def a #GloUp moment.

 

2017 BET Awards Wrap Up: Fashion + Performances + More

Last night the annual BET Awards took place in the city of stars, Los Angeles, Ca. And all our fav’s came out to represent the culture of black music and entertainment.

Things sizzled from the red (actually grey) carpet, to the main stage.

There was no shortage of fashion moments. From the likes of Carbi B. to Lil Mama to La La Anthony, and everyone in between.

Actress Garcelle Beauvais kept things affordable in this Missguided frock that retails for only $240!! Gotta love.  You can grab it right here. 

While everyone stood out in their own right, there was one trend that was definitely repeated often: The blonde bob.

Rocked by Cardi B, Blacc Chyna, Kat Graham, Tamar Braxton, Karrueche, the blonde bob took home the award for most worn hairstyle, for sure!

If we had to choose, we’d say Cardi rocked the hairstyle best. Although, we might be a bit biased (Bx stand up!!!)

Speaking of bombshell reality stars, there was no shortage of reality TV starlets. From Tammy Rivera, who kept it cute and casual in a wide leg white pant, polka dot white silk blouse, both Diane Von Furstenberg, and a saucy red lip; to fellow Love and Hip Hop Atlanta co star, Tommie, who went for a more risque look in a sheer dress (no coverage on the boobies) and long blonde pig tales. Also on hand was new mom and reality show vixen Joseline Hernandez, who clearly has snapped back.

While some looks were either really casual or really risque there were those few fav’s who manage to find the perfect balance of lady-like demur and sass:

How can we not discuss Remy Ma’s beaded blue fringed dress; a Karen Sabag number (same designer that  transformed Rem into a  princess for this years Grammys). I almost shed a tear. (More on Rem later)

La La, La La!!! All I can say is perfection. The dress , the messy high pony. The glam inspired dress is by designer Thai Nguyen Atelier. All we can say is DETAILS baby.

And then there was LeToya Luckett, who wore a floral flowy dress with leather details and a train that did not end!!

Not to be out done by the ladies, the fellas also came to kill em.

Future, gave me all the feels with the Mask On look he shared with his daughter. (love love love)

And Big Sean crushed the competition in a red crushed velvet casual joggers and matching jacket.

But it was The Migos and French Montana that let their feminine side shine in the floral.

#BlackLove was also in the air:

Big Sean and Jhene Aiko

Keyshia Ka’oir And Gucci:

And of course our fave #blacklove couple, Remy and Papoose:

The Performances:

The most talked about performance has certainly been the Xscape performance; in which, Kandi, Tiny and the other two ladies gave us all the nostalgia feels.

Then there was Mary J Blige. She made it clear that you gotta love yourself, before you love somebody else.

And the winners are…..
Hands down our favorite win of the night, went to Remy Ma, for Best Female Rapper. Her speech about second chances, coupled with her back story of  prison was just a moment. Are you DUMB??!!

 

There was also some international flavor in attendance with these African beauties; Ghana actress NanaAkua Addo, and South African Actress Nomzamo Mbatha, who wore a tribal inspired dress by Rich Factory.

And here are some other great looks for the night:

Product Review: Fragrance Market Exclusive Scent ‘Mercedes Benz Rose’

Smelling good goes hand in hand with being a woman.  It’s one thing to look good, but a whole other thing to smell just as good. Oddly, people may not remember what you looked liked, the details of your outfit or your hair may escape them in the long run;  but they will always remember how you smell.

I was sent a complimentary bottle of an exclusive scent offered only on Fragrance Market, called Mercedes Benz Rose. To say I loved the fragrance would be an understatement.  If I had to pick one word to describe the scent, it would be: feminine.  And of course, we must talk about the luxury; after all it is Mercedes Benz. The scent exudes luxury. However, it’s not so stiff and unattainable that it can’t be worn on a daily basic; in fact,  if I had to be remembered for a smell, I’d definitely want this to be it. It’s a great daily signature scent.

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When choosing a fragrance these days authenticity is key. That’s why purchasing from a reputable fragrance seller is important. Head over to FragranceMarket, and pick up a bottle of the exclusive Mercedes Benz Rose,  for yourself, or browse their vast stock of brand name, authentic scents for men and woman. Shipping is free for all purchases over $50. Also, use the code 10OFFBEST, and you’ll get 10% off.  #Winning!!

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Michelle Obama Gives Us The Fashion Feels In Italy

There is much to miss about the Obama’s. However, what I miss most of all, are the undeniably, fabulous fashion moments former fierce FLOTUS used to bless us with, rather ever so effortlessly. Well, Mom must of sensed our fashion sorrow, and decided it was high time for a total fashion moment, while on vacay with the hubs in the Tuscan Countryside of (of course) Italy. Perfect timing, because current First Lady, has me at the verge of a fashion meltdown (one more gotdamn high waist pencil skirt, and I’m gonna pull my weave out).

First came the petal-pink one shoulder cotton-poplin Teija blouse that Michelle wore with distressed (yes, DISTRESSED) white jeans , Jennifer Fisher hoops, and a crossbody white leather bag. If this look doesn’t say: “Im a former First Lady, but I still got that sauce”; I don’t know what does! This look has me ready to go on vacay today. But first lemme work on these arms. 🙂 BTW, the best accessory Michelle is rocking, is good ole melanin. YASSS sun- kissed- healthy- glow- brown- skin!!

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Here is the same blouse, priced just under a cool $400. Grab it before it fly’s off the shelves in 5-4-3-2-1.

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As if that first look didn’t give us all the vacay feels, Mom decided to kill us softly just one more time. This time, while out and about with hubby, former President Barack Obama, Mich threw on an airy stringy Club Monaco top, paired with high waist, wide leg khaki pants and the cutest burgundy leather carry baggie. Let us talk! First, Mom is bra-less, and honey I’m here for it. Second, Mom is letting her straps fall on purpose. HERE. FOR. IT. Third, Mom clearly doesn’t care what anyone thinks. She’s on vacay!!

But we care. And we also LOVE.

While we thank you Mich for giving us these effortlessly fabulous fashion moments in Italy, it actually just reinforces one thing:

We Miss You Mom!!!

 

6 Times He Made It Clear All He Wanted Was Sex; And You Ignored Him

Ladies, let’s be honest:  Sometimes we can create whole relationships in our minds. It’s in our nature to be dreamers, believers, hopeful minded. Well, there is a thin line between being encouraged and being down right dull when it comes to a man.

Sometimes we get lost in the possibility of what could be in a potential relationship, rather than facing the reality of what it really is (or isn’t). Don’t feel bad; we’ve all been there: memba Carrie and Big ( series not movie). We set ourselves up for failure, by expecting the best or the most out of a “situationship“, that is only supposed to be about one thing! I’m not saying that having casual- no- strings attached sex is okay, but if it’s what you signed up for, do yourself a fav-  stop looking for more. Because, what you’ll actually get, is something Im sure you didn’t sign up for- a broken heart💔. While some men can be under handed and deceitful in their intentions, there are those few instances where the writing was all up on the walls:

  1. In the beginning, he told you exactly what he wanted!

But you only heard what you wanted to hear. You omitted the clear direct honesty that he was spitting from go. Instead, you thought he had “trust issues”, and you could change him. Girl bye.

2. Before you guys took that dive into  bed; he reiterated exactly what he wanted.

But yet  again, you failed to take him seriously. Maybe you thought that once he got the goodies, he would now take you seriously. But here’s the thing: he won’t, because he made it clear exactly what he wanted and he’s gonna stick to his guns!

3. During sex, while he pleases you, he is limited in his intimacy with you. Almost sterile.

This isn’t to suggest that the sex is wack. Because it likely isn’t. However, it’s not wifey sex! He won’t even kiss you. Not even a peck. Because he is keeping up his side of the bargain: keeping things simple and unattached. He doesn’t want to send the wrong message.

4. He keeps you far away from his real life. 

He probably knows a lot about you, but you know little about him. And that’s because he keeps a wall up between you and his personal life. Again, he is dedicated to not sending mixed messages. Whataguy!

5. He avoids talking about the future with you.

He doesn’t want to sell you pipe dreams, so rarely will he talk about or plan anything in the future. He lives in the now with you.

6. His availability to you is very limited. And when he does make time for you, it’s usually just to, welp, have sex!

You never go on movie dates or out to eat. You know, normal couple stuff. Usually, when he’s making plans with you, it’s to find out when your next sexsion will occur.

So, if all or any of those 6 clues ring true to you and your guys situation and it doesn’t sit well with you, do something about it. Save yourself the disappointment, woman up and realize if you’re looking for more out of a man that has made his limited intentions with you clear; the only person getting played is you. Stop giving him your good good loving and save it for a more deserving soul.

You deserve the best babygirl! ❤

5 Things We Can All Learn From Lala Anthony About Bossing Up Through A Heartbreak

By now it’s no secret that one of our favorite #BlackLove couple is separated. Back in April news broke of Lala and Carmelo Anthony coming to an amicable agreement to go their separate ways after almost 7 years of marriage. While both Melo and Lala have rightly remained tight lipped about their current marital woes, like most instances: where there is smoke, there is likely fire. While, I’m sure we’re all rooting for this power couple; who have a ten year old son, Kiyan; to reconcile and work out their differences; one thing that has been endearing to watch from afar is how gracefully Lala has carried herself amid the mess. As a woman we know all too well the heartbreak she is facing right now, but even as the infidelity and out of wedlock baby rumors swirl- on Carmelo’s end- Lala remains seemingly resilient. While I am sure Lala is not exactly skating through this whole ordeal, she is certainly making it clear that the show must go on!

Here are five things we can all learn from La about handling our business as women all the while mending a broken heart💔:

Just Show Up!

Days after the news broke of the break down in her marriage, Lala was front and center at the Met Gala; which is possibly the most reported and photographed fashion event in the world. And there she was on the red carpet. And boy did she show up!! The dress was perfect. Stunning to say the least. Her skin was flawless and her body was on point. The following day the New York Daily Newspaper coveted front page featured Lala with the headline: ‘ Met Gala turns into La La Land’.  In a matter of one night the news shifted from broken hearted Lala to ‘Unbreakable’ Lala. Imagine if she chose to wallow in her sadness instead that night and did not show up? She changed the entire narrative of her story, just by showing up, and showing OUT!

Work Hard: Continue reading 5 Things We Can All Learn From Lala Anthony About Bossing Up Through A Heartbreak

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