Friend Or Foe: The Tragic Death of Kenneka Jenkins

Yesterday while perusing my snapchat; I caught wind of a story developing out of Chicago. It was about the young girl found dead in a walk in freezer. The more details I discovered about the story, the more disturb I became.
It seems the young girl, named Kenneka Jenkins; a gorgeous brown skinned, petite, 19-year- old; life came to a tragic end after celebrating her friends’ birthday in a hotel room kickback. While, many details remain unclear, one thing that is clear is that this story is messy, and just heartbreaking. According to current rendition of the story, Kenneka was so inebriated that she staggered into a walk in freezer and presumably could not get out. Many have taken to the internet to conform theories and “solve” the case. However out of respect for her family, I will not add my version of what I think happened to that young lady. Only, the Lord and the people involved really knows, everything else is just reckless speculation.
However, what I would like to discuss are the many alarming occurrences that took place based off of the facts that we have been privy to from the social media post, and Facebook lives of the people with Kenneka in her final hours alive, that are making rounds.

First, as a mother, I pray, that we as mothers to young beautiful vulnerable females, understand that our girls are at risk. It was not even a year ago that the hash tag #MissingDCGirls trended based on oddly high number of missing girls in DC. Young African woman are disappearing at an alarming rate in this country. A member of the city council declared an “epidemic” of missing girls. Knowing that to be a fact, makes it more than okay to be that overbearing parent that sets very clear perimeters for our girls to live within. I’m not in anyway saying that Kenneka’s mom could have done anything any differently; I’m sure she never thought her daughter going to her best friend’s birthday party would result in her child’s death. However, what I am saying is, we as mothers have to be more vigilant over our daughters more than ever before. We have to take precautions and measures we never had to in recent history. We just do. Know where they’re going, with who, when they’ll be back, have other mothers numbers, friends numbers, drop them off, wait outside, drive around the block while you wait, text every 30 mins, or else I coming in to find you!

Secondly, I won’t write this and pretend like I have never been a carefree, boundary pushing teenager. In fact, I think this story resonates so much because I can remember being in some pretty sketchy situations alongside my friends as well as a youngin. Unlike, poor Kenneka, I survived (all glory to God). However, when I think about what made me escape the same fate as this sweet girl, the fact is that I grew up in a time when people weren’t entirely shitty. Even the bad guys had somewhat of a conscience in my time. Fast forward to these days, people are ruthless. The mixture of being high off all sorts of drugs, pills, etc; coupled with a dog eat dog mentally, this generation is just different. As I watched the Facebook live, the look on some of those kids faces are scary. Nothing phases them, or bothers them. Or at least that’s the way they want to appear. The chase of “turning up” supersede all moral judgement. It’s sad and scary at the same time to bare witness to.

Lastly, the question that a lot of people are asking this morning is; were any of those three or  four other girls Kenneka Jenkins with, really her friends? We don’t know what happened, but the fact that she was with four other girls, and no one knows what happened is disgusting. Let’s go with the version that these girls are offering and assume that they really don’t know what happened to this young lady. That in itself is a crime. We are so quick to call eachother “sis”, and egg  eachother on when it’s turn up twerking time; but we let things like this just happen?! If Kenneka was as drunk as is being reported, her more alert/sober friends should of took reign and gotten her to safety.

I just needed to get these things off my chest, because like I said this story has me bothered. This young girls life did not have to end like this. I pray her family, especially her mother finds some peace. May her soul rest in perfect peace.

Sidenote: I neglected to touch on the young men involved because, we don’t know what happened. I only touched on that of which there is evidence to support. Again, I don’t want to speculate. However, if those young men were involved the moral of this story is not ‘”friend or foe”, but rather “raise men that don’t rape and kill girls”. smh!!!

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