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6 Times He Made It Clear All He Wanted Was Sex; And You Ignored Him

Ladies, let’s be honest:  Sometimes we can create whole relationships in our minds. It’s in our nature to be dreamers, believers, hopeful minded. Well, there is a thin line between being encouraged and being down right dull when it comes to a man.

Sometimes we get lost in the possibility of what could be in a potential relationship, rather than facing the reality of what it really is (or isn’t). Don’t feel bad; we’ve all been there: memba Carrie and Big ( series not movie). We set ourselves up for failure, by expecting the best or the most out of a “situationship“, that is only supposed to be about one thing! I’m not saying that having casual- no- strings attached sex is okay, but if it’s what you signed up for, do yourself a fav-  stop looking for more. Because, what you’ll actually get, is something Im sure you didn’t sign up for- a broken heart💔. While some men can be under handed and deceitful in their intentions, there are those few instances where the writing was all up on the walls:

  1. In the beginning, he told you exactly what he wanted!

But you only heard what you wanted to hear. You omitted the clear direct honesty that he was spitting from go. Instead, you thought he had “trust issues”, and you could change him. Girl bye.

2. Before you guys took that dive into  bed; he reiterated exactly what he wanted.

But yet  again, you failed to take him seriously. Maybe you thought that once he got the goodies, he would now take you seriously. But here’s the thing: he won’t, because he made it clear exactly what he wanted and he’s gonna stick to his guns!

3. During sex, while he pleases you, he is limited in his intimacy with you. Almost sterile.

This isn’t to suggest that the sex is wack. Because it likely isn’t. However, it’s not wifey sex! He won’t even kiss you. Not even a peck. Because he is keeping up his side of the bargain: keeping things simple and unattached. He doesn’t want to send the wrong message.

4. He keeps you far away from his real life. 

He probably knows a lot about you, but you know little about him. And that’s because he keeps a wall up between you and his personal life. Again, he is dedicated to not sending mixed messages. Whataguy!

5. He avoids talking about the future with you.

He doesn’t want to sell you pipe dreams, so rarely will he talk about or plan anything in the future. He lives in the now with you.

6. His availability to you is very limited. And when he does make time for you, it’s usually just to, welp, have sex!

You never go on movie dates or out to eat. You know, normal couple stuff. Usually, when he’s making plans with you, it’s to find out when your next sexsion will occur.

So, if all or any of those 6 clues ring true to you and your guys situation and it doesn’t sit well with you, do something about it. Save yourself the disappointment, woman up and realize if you’re looking for more out of a man that has made his limited intentions with you clear; the only person getting played is you. Stop giving him your good good loving and save it for a more deserving soul.

You deserve the best babygirl! ❤

5 Things We Can All Learn From Lala Anthony About Bossing Up Through A Heartbreak

By now it’s no secret that one of our favorite #BlackLove couple is separated. Back in April news broke of Lala and Carmelo Anthony coming to an amicable agreement to go their separate ways after almost 7 years of marriage. While both Melo and Lala have rightly remained tight lipped about their current marital woes, like most instances: where there is smoke, there is likely fire. While, I’m sure we’re all rooting for this power couple; who have a ten year old son, Kiyan; to reconcile and work out their differences; one thing that has been endearing to watch from afar is how gracefully Lala has carried herself amid the mess. As a woman we know all too well the heartbreak she is facing right now, but even as the infidelity and out of wedlock baby rumors swirl- on Carmelo’s end- Lala remains seemingly resilient. While I am sure Lala is not exactly skating through this whole ordeal, she is certainly making it clear that the show must go on!

Here are five things we can all learn from La about handling our business as women all the while mending a broken heart💔:

Just Show Up!

Days after the news broke of the break down in her marriage, Lala was front and center at the Met Gala; which is possibly the most reported and photographed fashion event in the world. And there she was on the red carpet. And boy did she show up!! The dress was perfect. Stunning to say the least. Her skin was flawless and her body was on point. The following day the New York Daily Newspaper coveted front page featured Lala with the headline: ‘ Met Gala turns into La La Land’.  In a matter of one night the news shifted from broken hearted Lala to ‘Unbreakable’ Lala. Imagine if she chose to wallow in her sadness instead that night and did not show up? She changed the entire narrative of her story, just by showing up, and showing OUT!

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