Ladies, let’s be honest: Sometimes we can create whole relationships in our minds. It’s in our nature to be dreamers, believers, hopeful minded. Well, there is a thin line between being encouraged and being down right dull when it comes to a man.
Sometimes we get lost in the possibility of what could be in a potential relationship, rather than facing the reality of what it really is (or isn’t). Don’t feel bad; we’ve all been there: memba Carrie and Big ( series not movie). We set ourselves up for failure, by expecting the best or the most out of a “situationship“, that is only supposed to be about one thing! I’m not saying that having casual- no- strings attached sex is okay, but if it’s what you signed up for, do yourself a fav- stop looking for more. Because, what you’ll actually get, is something Im sure you didn’t sign up for- a broken heart💔. While some men can be under handed and deceitful in their intentions, there are those few instances where the writing was all up on the walls:
- In the beginning, he told you exactly what he wanted!
But you only heard what you wanted to hear. You omitted the clear direct honesty that he was spitting from go. Instead, you thought he had “trust issues”, and you could change him. Girl bye.
2. Before you guys took that dive into bed; he reiterated exactly what he wanted.
But yet again, you failed to take him seriously. Maybe you thought that once he got the goodies, he would now take you seriously. But here’s the thing: he won’t, because he made it clear exactly what he wanted and he’s gonna stick to his guns!
3. During sex, while he pleases you, he is limited in his intimacy with you. Almost sterile.
This isn’t to suggest that the sex is wack. Because it likely isn’t. However, it’s not wifey sex! He won’t even kiss you. Not even a peck. Because he is keeping up his side of the bargain: keeping things simple and unattached. He doesn’t want to send the wrong message.
4. He keeps you far away from his real life.
He probably knows a lot about you, but you know little about him. And that’s because he keeps a wall up between you and his personal life. Again, he is dedicated to not sending mixed messages. Whataguy!
5. He avoids talking about the future with you.
He doesn’t want to sell you pipe dreams, so rarely will he talk about or plan anything in the future. He lives in the now with you.
6. His availability to you is very limited. And when he does make time for you, it’s usually just to, welp, have sex!
You never go on movie dates or out to eat. You know, normal couple stuff. Usually, when he’s making plans with you, it’s to find out when your next sexsion will occur.
So, if all or any of those 6 clues ring true to you and your guys situation and it doesn’t sit well with you, do something about it. Save yourself the disappointment, woman up and realize if you’re looking for more out of a man that has made his limited intentions with you clear; the only person getting played is you. Stop giving him your good good loving and save it for a more deserving soul.
You deserve the best babygirl! ❤